Raising Catholic daughters

{repost from 11/2021}

This time last year Avila was lamenting about all the things “I was making her do…”

Pray the Rosary. Go to Mass more than once a week. Wear a veil. Try to find Catholic friends (in addition to her other friends that we both still love). I hadn’t brought up the dress challenge yet but heaven forbid if I said anything along the lines of “wear a drrrrrrr…”

And now?? A year later?

“Mom, can I use some of my money to buy a little purse to hold my rosary and veil?”

“Mom, I love the infinity veils, could you please get me one? They look so pretty.”

“Mom, is this feminine enough?”

“Mom, I think I’m going to wear a skirt tomorrow to school.”

“Mom, I just got off FaceTime with my friend and we prayed a Rosary…in Latin”

“Mom, I love my Catholic friends, they are so fun!”

“Mom, but we have to go to Mass tomorrow because it’s First Saturday.”


I lead and also let her find her way.

I prompt and let her fill in the blanks.

I suggest, sometimes force, and then back off to let God work.

I teach her how to pray and ask God for what she wants. I create the boundaries and let her color in the lines, hopefully settling the example of how to paint.

I started late with this one. We both were exploring what femininity and womanhood meant at the same time. Her, for the first time. Myself, going deeper and building as a somewhat baby TradCatholic.

But let me tell you this: the example she sees in all her friends, in all the families around us, in her church community, in the fun we have and the reverence we adhere to, in how her own mom is trying to embrace Marian femininity…it all has had an impact on my children that has set their future on new trajectories – especially for this sweet girl.

And, oh, how her heart has been softened in the wake of her dad’s death…

I will continue paving the way, setting up a framework for her life, surrounding her with the people I want her to become, and praying that God fills in the holes.

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  1. Allison Fogarty on November 22, 2021 at 9:59 pm

    Can your daughter and my daughter be friends? Oh she needs someone like this in her life!

    • Kristine on November 23, 2021 at 4:37 pm

      She’s always up for new friends!! We prayed so hard and so earnestly that she would find people her age to influence her in the ways I was teaching her. And God answers that prayer so generously!

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